Single mothers by choice and dating
blogger chose to become a single mom in 2009 with the help of a sperm donor.
Though she has "solo" status, Shumaker says she has never really parented "solo." Thanks to immeasurable support from her family, friends, and neighbors, Shumaker has been able to learn the "nonstop dance of my needs and my son's needs," and what the true meaning of balance is to a single parent (which, in some cases, can be measured in a shower and clean clothes! See why dating is hardly on her radar, how being a caregiver first made her a better mom, and how she learned that single parenting "never involves checking everything off your to do list." In 2003, I left my career in the film industry in Hollywood to become my grandmother's caregiver.
Read more → A 5-year-old Choice Kid started referring to a woman’s ex-boyfriend as "daddy" even though he had proven to be not good father material and the mother had ended the relationship six months earlier. The girl was saying that she "missed her daddy," even though she’d never referred to him that way before.
If Mari Takada has her way, women in Japanese society will one day be free from judgment in choosing whether or not to marry, have children, or give birth outside wedlock.
Of course there are times when I feel like I'm losing it: It's snowing out and I have a child with a fever and I have to walk the dog... You make friends with that nice young guy in your building who won't mind walking your dog sometimes.
My daughter and I were out last night when a very cute young woman from our neighborhood passed us, saying, "It's the cool single-mommy-daughter duo! My daughter, who is nine, was looking fabulous as usual, in her powder-blue Jonas Brothers T-shirt that has a photograph that somehow manages to make the Jonases look punk rock. That night, I was wearing my typical single-mommy uniform, meaning something I can throw on and still manage to look sexy enough in to attract the incidental man who might turn up in the grocery store: my skinniest jeans, a Black Keys tee (love that band), a belt with a carved silver buckle I bought on a reporting trip to Austin, and strappy black heels. One of the perks and challenges of single motherhood: You're still "out there."I decided I liked how we looked. We have dinner with friends at all the local joints. I'm a single mom, and that means I should be miserable, sitting at home alone, wrapped in a Snuggie and drinking PMS tea, seeking solace on a psychic hotline, right? Instead, I find myself having the best time of my life. With or without a man, motherhood can be its own reward and is just what I've always wanted."But doesn't your child need a father? And my daughter, Zazie, has some wonderful uncles and grown-up male friends who provide her with examples of good men and let her know how much she is loved. When we divorced five years later, I still hoped I'd find someone to settle down with.
She was wearing leggings and Keds, a zebra-print scarf tied once around her neck, and a pair of sunglasses with two green frogs perched above the lenses. But what I like even more about us is how we are in our little family of two (plus 90-pound dog). But as I got to be 33, 34, 35 (ticktock, ticktock), I started considering having a baby on my own.
My mother soon joined us, and we lived as a three-generation family.
In 2005, I decided to become a single mother by choice.