If we do, it can never inhibit our actions and control us.
It Comes From Everywhere Intimidation comes at us from many quarters – parents, teachers, schoolmates and even churches – but the workplace is where we are most likely to be fed a steady diet of The Big I.
In my family, bullying was the way my parents got rid of their feelings.
After years of paying close attention to what was going on under the surface, I finally realized that the more emotions my parents were trying to deny in themselves, the more they put me down.
For instance, if someone always comments on your parenting style, you can say, “I parent my kids according to my own values.
I’m sorry if you don’t like it, but that’s what I will continue to do.”Use “I” messages rather than “you” messages, which means saying “I think” or “I feel” rather than “You always” or “You shouldn’t.” “I” messages keep the focus on what you’re trying to communicate, and are less likely to instigate an argument.
As someone who was bullied by family members for more years than I care to count, I spent a lot of time learning that most of the bullying going on was not about me or my failings—it was more about what other people needed to unload..
One of the most insidious and destructive forms of bullying is family bullying, because it’s often done in the name of love.Handling Bullying Behavior Choosing to Not Be a Victim Avoiding Bullying Traps Community Q&A Everyone hears stories about bullying in schools. Whether it’s at work or at home, grown-ups have to face people who pick on them, tease them, and make their lives extremely difficult.Unfortunately, bullying doesn’t stop at graduation. Bullying can even occur on line and across social media.The typical business environment is an out-and-out incubator for intimidation.The use of power, authority, position and status to intimidate workers into compliance is, at many companies, considered to be one of the most effective of management’s bag of coercive tools.